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A child who is a child abuse survivor has approached J’aimeKids and asked if she may write a blog in which she reaches out to other children who is also victims of Child Abuse.

When I was two years old, my grandparents adopted me, but in the same year my grandmother passed away. And my grandfather married a lovely lady and she raised me as one of her own, she gave me all the love and caring each mother gives her child. But not my grandfather, he decided to do very awful things to me. When I was in grade one he told me that if I tell anyone what he’s doing to me he is going to kill my mommy and I didn’t want that so I kept quiet. In grade 4 one afternoon when I came home from school there were a lady and a man sitting in the living room, and my mommy introduced me to them and the woman said she’s sorry for giving up on us and I turned around and walked away. On that same day she came into my room and asked me if we can talk. Then she said all my sisters could forgive her why can’t I do the same. I looked at her and said:”When we were babies you didn’t want anything to do with us but now that I’m almost a teenager you want to be in our life.” I don’t think so. Then she said “I met your father in a night club”, so I know what that means, I looked at her and asked:” What?” She said:” You are a mistake, you were never meant to be”, and she stood up and said:” I’m so glad we had this talk.” In grade 5 I found out my mommy had cancer. In grade 9 we learned about HIV/AIDS and I learned that what my grandfather did was wrong. That afternoon I told him I know what his doing to me was wrong and that it was actually rape. In grade 10 my mommy passed away and on the day of the funeral the whole family on my grandfather’s side including my grandfather himself got drunk and that showed me that they don’t have respect for my mom because here they are getting drunk just hours after my mom’s funeral. Since the day my mom passed away my grandfather blamed me for the death of my mommy. In October 2008 I got a brochure of J’aimeKids in the postbox and I called the chairperson of J’aimeKids, Cherie Theron and she helped me. She called me everyday to hear how I’m doing. That’s how I want to help other children that are going through the same as I went through by writing this blog.